An Unconditional Love Poem – All My Affection

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All My Affection – An Unconditional Love Poem

I have learned about love
from the way you have loved me –
embracing my flaws and imperfections,
even when I crumble in self-loathing, ready to accept defeat.

Your compassion dances around me,
turns attention away from my often clumsy feet.
Its rhythmic motions sway in a relaxed manner,
abounding even when I fall and never miss a beat.

Eyes like a campfire radiating loving warmth,
they let me know you take me as I am.
No need for perfection or a false self –
faithfulness and my love are your only demands.

Your ability to love me as broken as I am
gives me the confidence to embrace my own imperfection.
Your grace outweighs this lead-filled bag of failures,
and your heart has all my affection.

-Poem Written by Justin Farley

About the Poem

It’s easy to say, “I love you”. It’s quite another thing to act out, “I love you”. We live in a world where divorce and infidelity are rampant. Love has lost its meaning and has become only something you say to someone you care about, but is not unconditional. Unconditional love is much stronger than the weak adjective you use in the beginning of a relationship to describe your feelings. It is a verb that acts even when the adjective is missing.

There are circumstances that demand that your love be conditional, such as domestic abuse, because you love yourself and your children; however, far too often we quit on love because we think it is meant to be easy…that wonderful adjective that we first felt. We forget that true love, unconditional love,  is meant to stretch our character – to learn how to forgive, learn how to give grace to another, and ultimately to act out love’s true meaning.

We all want unconditional love, but in order to get it we must give it. Unconditional love doesn’t ignore a partner’s flaws or pretend that they don’t exist, but loves despite those things and helps provide support in overcoming those imperfections as a unit.

Everyone has deep flaws, no matter how good their strengths are. Weaknesses in either partner should not be held in solitary confinement – never spoken of and never visited. Elimination of those weaknesses should be the goal, but never the condition. If you love with the expectation that your partner will change someday, you’re not really loving at all.

A partnership can be dissolved anytime one of the individuals involved fails to meet the terms of the agreement. Unconditional love, on the other hand, is something entirely different. When you love someone unconditionally, you love them even when they aren’t meeting the terms of the agreement. And in turn, hopefully they love you when you aren’t.

But loving someone unconditionally doesn’t depend on them loving you back unconditionally. You can’t control another person. All you can do is do your best everyday to love without demands or requirements. We all fail at love. Sometimes you fail. Sometimes they fail. Sometimes you both fail together. But when unconditional love is the ultimate goal – when you define love as a verb and not an adjective – love provides the strength to carry one another and transcends the imperfections that we all have inside of us.

Do you want a partnership or unconditional love? You can’t have both. We all want to be unconditionally loved, but often only want to give a partnership. It’s easy to make a list of the ways they are failing us. It’s much more difficult to inventory the way we are failing them. There are circumstances where the person you love has betrayed you so deeply that the relationship may not be sustainable. But in today’s society, I think we are all too quick to point fingers and point out each other’s flaws instead of looking at ours and theirs, together as a whole.

You may also like my romantic love poems,“The Wings of a Fighter” and “I Want To Walk With You”

Looking For Eternal Love Poem – “The Wings of A Fighter”

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The Wings of A Fighter – A Poem About Looking For Eternal Love

I’m looking for the wings of a fighter,
someone to take flight with
and who won’t turn back at the slightest breeze.
She need not be perfect and can have scars upon her,
she just must be resistant to whatever weather fortune brings.

I’m done floating on delicate bubbles,
quickly rising, but eager to pop.
I’m done dealing with skyline struggles,
pleading and begging just to keep from being dropped.

I’m looking for the wings of a fighter,
she may be bruised but absorbs life’s punches
without letting go of my hand.
When she’s afraid she clutches me tighter,
and her promises are solid ground, not suddenly swallowed by sand.

I’m done flying with fallen angels
who fiercely hold onto pride and careless ways.
I’m done rebuilding and mending halos
only to find they have no desire to reenter heaven’s gates.

I’m looking for the wings of a fighter
with feathers secure and ready for flight.
Someone who is not merely a glider,
but a partner who flaps her wings beside me,
raging and resisting against the black of night.

-Poem Written by Justin Farley

About the Poem

A poem about looking for eternal love and finding a partner who is dedicated and sticks by your side through life’s struggles.


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The Sailor – A Poem

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The Sailor – A Poem

You’ve sent me off as an aimless navigator
Traveling upon treacherous and torrential seas.
Once was a proud and confident sailor,
But now find there’s no compass I can read.

Needles spin with the wind and poles have no meaning
When they are altered by my heart’s magnetic field.
And upon this ship it’s no easy sailing
With a split and swollen keel.

These waves that come rolling in
Only reaffirm and remind me of what rolled out with the tide.
Everyday the heat beats down on scorched, sunburnt skin
And drifting upon the open sea there’s nowhere to hide.

I do not accept my demise
And have not given up casting out my nets.
But I can’t help hungering for my past prize
When salty, quenchless water is all I seem to catch.

At least if I was shipwrecked
There’d be land where I could lay my head to rest,
But as it is I have trekked
Across endless waves and seen nothing but deep, blue nothingness.

You sent me off as an aimless navigator,
Charting waters without a course.
There are no maps for the heart-broken sailor
When the only land I know how to seek is yours.

-Poem Written by Justin Farley


 

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Leaving Home – A Love Poem About Rejection and Starting Over 

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Leaving Home – A Poem About Getting Rejected by a Lover

Leaving home and venturing alone
Out across the unfamiliar frontier.
The scenery and signposts are all unknown,
And my heart sags, burdened by hesitation and fear.

Traveling along tomorrow’s highway,
Musing over the miles left behind.
But when you’ve played every card there is to play,
Your eviction notice has been signed.

It’s no easy task to pack up the memories,
Pile your bags high with hopes of what you thought would be.
But when your heart is denied all entries,
It’s clear you’ve been rejected, not set free.

So now one set of footprints mark the journey
Where there once were two.
This road has become winding and curvy
At the thought of starting something new.

But I have no regrets nor reservations;
I did all that I could do.
I’m just weighted down by a trunk filled with frustrations
That I was not worth the fight for you.

I’ll travel on,
Knowing there’s an exit within my sight.
But my heart still worries how you’ll get along
Through your dark and arduous night.

My only concern is for your poor heart –
So blind and was never able to see.
I would have held your hand tightly through the dark,
But instead you’ve settled for misery.

Leaving home and venturing alone,
Determined to not let fear decide my fate.
Far better to blaze a path into the unknown
Than to remain comfortable and stagnate.

-Poem Written by Justin Farley


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Romance’s Introduction – A Poem

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Romance’s Introduction – A Poem

Your lustrous eyes draw me in,
Beckon me closer, uninhibited and unafraid;
Allure me to dive into your deep, refreshing sea
Like a moth mesmerized, hypnotized by a flame.

Your curves caress and cause my carnal desires
To flare up in a blaze as a match to gasoline.
Your emotional depth and vulnerability add fuel to the pyre –
A breathtaking bonfire built upon the balance of romance and sexuality.

Feminine longing whispers to my soul
In wisps of wonder like ceremonial incense from across the room.
And I’m dazed to discover my masculinity rousing to respond;
Aspiring to feed your fragrant flower, nurturing and protecting it until it blooms.

Divine delicacy dwindles in distress –
A soul afraid, yet yearning to emerge from the safety of her cocoon.
And I’m entranced by my need to satisfy,
To unveil your wondrous wings and free the beautiful butterfly that is you.

There is no need to tell me what you desire
For your heat radiates like tongues of fire speaking to my heart.
My lady…I know the intimacy you crave, your sensual tidal wave,
And I’m here to tell you I have more than you could ever want.

So unlock your chamber door, undress your distresses,
Drop your defenses, and hand over your hidden and guarded key.
Romanticism is my essence – no more games or guesses –
For my romantic nature is ravished, ready to devour your beauty.

-Poem Written by Justin Farley


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Rapunzel – A Poem About Fighting For Love

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Rapunzel – A Poem About Fighting For Love

“Rapunzel, Rapunzel,
Let down thy hair.”
Neither sleet nor rain,
Darkness nor pain,
Cold nor ice
Will suffice to keep me away
From your tower of solitude.
You can ascend spiral stairs of stone
Into the sky’s recesses,
But I will follow your tresses,
Clinging and holding on despite your wrongs.
The song you sing is without equal,
And nowhere but by your side do I belong.
This love I have for you
Does not just cling to the beauty of the blossom,
But dwells in the depths of darkness, down to the root.
You can hack off at the stem, but it will quickly grow a new shoot.
Your veil of secrecy is coming unraveled, my dear.
Your fear and all that you believe can remain hidden is exposed;
You can hide beneath it no longer.
Because like thorns on a rose
It is apart of you,
Nestled within you,
And I’m here to tell you
The rose I gaze upon has never looked so lovely.
I long more than ever to bathe in your beauty,
Be swept away by the fragrance of your scent,
Rest my fingers upon your petals,
And block the wind and rain from bruising your stem.
This tower of solitude you seek to conceal your darkness in
Does not block, nor can it stop my love.
I will scale your walls if I have to,
And each time I fall will begin again.
For trapped within a chamber courting madness
Lies the woman I love and my dearest friend.
Without her I am not the same.
You are the sweet, spring rain
That falls on me and restores me after a harsh, cold winter
And alleviates my pain.
Hide no longer.
I am not scared of what you keep locked up inside.
Unleash it upon me and see that I am not moved,
That my love stands firm, and in me you can confide.
Your struggles, weaknesses, insecurities –
Set them free.
Look into my eyes and know
You can trust in me.
I am not here to rescue you.
I can’t battle your demons for you,
But I will walk with you on this journey
If you’ll only reach out and take my hand.
Know that no matter how hard this climb gets,
I’ll never let go.
I will wait patiently outside your tower
Until you’re ready to let me in,
Until you see that I’m not just your lover,
But also your soul mate and best friend.
I love all of you, including what lies locked in your tower.
You don’t have to be afraid that you feel scared and without power.
You can be exposed to me – naked, vulnerable, and bare.
“Rapunzel, Rapunzel,
Let down thy hair.”

– Poem Written by Justin Farley, quoted segment taken from the story “Rapunzel” by the Brothers Grimm

The Trouble With Love – A Poem

The Trouble With Love – A Poem

Why do I continually let people into my fragile heart
Who have no business being there?
Why do I continue to trust in the promise of love
When it only breeds deep wounds of despair?

“I Love You’s” are thrown around like hellos,
Promises given without the trace of honest intention.
My soul breaks and quakes in mournful bellows
Because of thoughtless decisions.

Can’t I ever find someone who is honest and true?
Can’t I ever find eyes that don’t lie –
Eyes that echo joy and laughter
But have secrets and deceit they sleep behind?

Is it really that hard to accept love
And not continually push against it and fight?
You can continue to play tug-of-war with your heart,
But you’re done playing it with mine.

Soul suckers sit out in the darkness
And wait for a decent man
That they can feast upon and sink their vicious claws into,
Clutching honest, beating hearts in their hands.

I guess they get off on causing chaos,
Casting their spells upon warm, caring hearts.
Then, when they’re done with their feast
They simply spit them back up and tear them apart.

Cower in your corners you tainted and jaded,
You frightened, gutless little girls.
If you can’t look love in the face,
Stay the hell out of men’s worlds.

Stay in your delusions. Remain in the past,
Bitching about what Daddy didn’t do for you.
It’s about time you moved on and grew up,
The only excuse you have now is you.

The trouble with love is we live in a world
Full of confused, soulless creatures,
Who never give a damn about anyone but themselves,
Who hide behind exhausted excuses,
Love to hitch a ride upon a caring back,
But have no intention of sticking around for the journey.

The trouble with love is that you first have to find someone
Who’s not simply out to break hearts and get off on playing games.
And in our world, selfishness reigns,
And worthy hearts dwindle everyday.

So where are you, love?
I thought I knew you
But you turned out to be just another
Coward and liar.
Love, I’m done chasing you.
You can come find me when your games are through,
Until then I’m smothering your fire.

-Poem Written by Justin Farley

Passion’s Answer – A Love Poem

Come lay down at my feet,
Come sweep away the pain that follows me,
Haunting me wherever my restless heart roams.

Fix your gaze upon my soul,
Look in its mirror and see its reflection shows you,
And see that its essence is true.

Let me tell you my tales of unwritten stories
And the unfilled lines that are strung across my heart –
Secrets I will whisper in your ears in the dark.

May your lips reach across the boundary lines,
And your light cause the darkness to hide.
Spread yourself across my table and let me drink of your wine.

Passion bubbles like soap suds floating on the wind,
Sending messages out in colorful auras –
Orbs that I fill with hope that you will reach
Out and pluck them from the air.

Let your hair flow down to your breast,
Untangle your web of insecurities in my arms.
You’re safe by my side.
My heart cannot bear to cause you harm.

Come to me as a slave,
But allow me to dismantle your chains
And set the prisoner inside you free.

Quiet your lying mind,
But heighten your senses.
Let me tear down your walls with my love,
Leave no trace left of defenses.

Climb aboard my ship
And ride upon passion’s sea.
Unfold your royal carpet at my feet
And allow me to fulfill passion’s plea.

The Leaves of Autumn (I’ll Remember You) – A Love Poem

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The Leaves of Autumn (I’ll Remember You) – A Love Poem

When the fireflies bring their dances to a close over the meadow
And the leaves of autumn change their hue,
I will look out my window, love,
And I’ll remember you.

That twinkle in your eyes
Will bring a smile to my face,
But sadly my memories won’t stop there –
I’ll long for your taste,
They’ll find their way to my heart,
And the floodgates will break.

My tears will be the only evidence you still exist,
Smothered by the weight of it all,
And the remembrance of love’s kiss,
I’ll try to find a way to see through the mist –
These cataracts that love has stained upon my eyes.

But how am I to live without your light –
That bright, blinking beacon
Leading me through the mire of my own night?
I’m capable of fighting my own fights,
But I have no desire to…
Not now.
Now when the only affirmation of victory
Is the echo of my own voice.
All dreams are for naught
If they don’t include you.
For you were the one who breathed them into being,
You were the water that took a withered seedling
And made it stand up tall and proud.
So who am I to boast to now, love
Now that you’re not around?

These blooms are fading.
I can feel them shrinking back
Into the dark nothingness from which they came.
I’ve tried to feed them myself,
But they only respond to your name.

I can look up into the heavens
And count the multitude of diamonds glistening,
Ready to be plucked from the sky.
But there is only one jewel I desire,
And it resides within the twinkle of your eye.

So I’ll continue looking out my window,
Enclosed in the tomb of my own misery
And try to choose a memory
That brings your precious light
As close as it can to the solitude of my darkness.

When the fireflies bring their dances to a close over the meadow
And the leaves of autumn change their hue,
I will look out my window, love,
And I’ll remember you.

-Poem Written by Justin Farley


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Across the Moonlit Miles

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Across the Moonlit Miles

I can feel you across the moonlit miles that separate our windows.
And somehow I know you are out there,
Lying in bed, unable to sleep, just like me.
You are yearning for this chaos to be released
And wisped away into the cosmos.
You are wondering why love has to be this hard,
When it is so easy, believe me…
I know it to be true.
Though I’ve told you a thousand times,
I’m just another hopeless romantic like you,
Making the obvious a mystery,
Purposely blurring the evidence that resounds,
“Safe. True. Real.”

But I wonder does the pain keep you up,
Or are you already at ease in peaceful sleep?
There are no dreams on my eyes tonight, only tears –
Empty vessels, messages in bottles I’m sending out to you.
SOS, my love. I’m sinking fast.
So won’t you read quickly?
Unravel the scroll and see my soul opened wide, tears dried upon the page.
Return my plea! Can’t you see that I need to be freed
From this misery, this tragedy?
This man you see is not one of the wolves
You’ve mistaken for sheep a thousand times over.
I am a scared, shaking lamb just like you.
Broken, bruised, blackened, and blue.
I can feel you across the moonlit miles tonight, my love.
Can you feel me too?

– Poem Written by Justin Farley


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