A Goodbye Poem About Being In A Relationship With A Narcissist

A Poem about Narcissistic Love Abuse and Saying Goodbye

Entangled Roots

Your mind is a distorted, convoluted 
mess of gnarled roots, 
tangled and locked
like chains of security.  

I try to dig beneath a tough exterior
to find the heart you've buried.
But all I find in the depths of this earth
are larger, thicker roots and impenetrable bedrock
that parries the strikes of my shovel.

Hope even has doubt in her voice
when she encourages me 
to keep trying, to keep exploring 
this maze of darkness.

But I'm beginning to believe
that all I'll find at its center
is not a wounded heart 
but a monstrous Minotaur
who will end up devouring me. 

Love bears all things—
with you it's only pain.
Love believes all things—
with you it's only delusions and lies.
Love hopes all things—
with you all of them are lost.
Love endures all things—
with you it's only the endless
abuse of a narcissist, 
gaslighting and scorching my sanity.

Perhaps there is a heart
buried somewhere beneath these deep roots
of delusion and warped reality.
But I can't keep casting pearls before swine.

Because as long as the mirror
you gaze into reflects a faultless victim
who deserves endless reparations
for all the perceived wrongs you've endured,
there's no hope for change and a beast you'll remain.

So goodbye, farewell. I'm leaving you while
the reflection in my own mirror is crystal clear.
I finally see a shell of myself, ragged and spent
from my own delusions of believing "I love you's."
Now I understand that underneath all your abuse, 
"I love me" was all you meant. 


Justin Farley

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If you’re feeling overwhelmed and confused about your relationship with a narcissist, here are some things to remember:

• You’re not alone. Many people want to read poems about loving a narcissist because expressing these complicated emotions is challenging. It’s hard to be in love with someone who’s actions don’t make sense.
• You can’t change a narcissist. For any change to happen, first a problem has to be identified. Narcissists often don’t recognize the need to change because they don’t believe they’re the problem no matter how much evidence you present.
• Your worth is not defined by their approval. You deserve love that makes you feel safe, respected, and valued, not being love bombed and getting gaslighted until you feel completely insane.
• It’s okay to grieve. Letting go of the hope that they’ll change is painful, but necessary for you to repair the damage they’ve caused, so you can heal.
• Healthy relationships empower you, rather than leaving you exhausted or doubtful of your self-worth.
• Writing poetry or journaling can be a powerful tool for processing emotions and beginning the healing journey.
• Reasons to leave a narcissist: Your emotional health, peace, happiness, and the chance to find genuine, nurturing love. And above all, all the energy, effort, and sacrifice is all for nothing because they will never change without being honest with themselves–something most narcissists are incapable of.
• You have a future beyond this relationship. Healing and rediscovering your worth open doors to new, fulfilling chapters in your life. Don’t let their abusive words convince you that they are somehow the best you can do or that no one could love you.

Many people wonder about ending a relationship with a narcissist and seek out guidance on how to leave their narcissistic partner because they don’t know what to do. This hesitation is natural; leaving is hard. It’s especially tough when you love someone deeply or when you’ve invested significant time hoping they’ll eventually change. It’s even harder when you’ve dealt with narcissistic abuse and have been convinced that you’re the problem or that you are worthless.

Maybe you’ve spent late nights wondering about breakup advice for narcissists who won’t change or racking your brain, wondering why can’t I change my narcissist wife, husband, girlfriend, or boyfriend. The hard truth is that you can’t heal someone else’s wounds, especially when they refuse to acknowledge they exist. Letting go means accepting things as they actually are not as you wish them to eventually be.

I hope my poem about being in love with a narcissist was able to get words to the sorrow, confusion, and hope you may have felt. Poems and heartfelt writings can offer solace, validation, and a gentle nudge toward accepting the truth about your relationship. But remember, staying trapped in this emotional turmoil, hoping for a miracle that isn’t likely to come only prolongs your pain. Recognizing the signs it’s time to leave a narcissistic partner is a brave and powerful step.

Embrace that courage. You’re stronger than you think and stepping away is the beginning of finding your peace and happiness. I hope you found this poem a gentle encouragement to stop trying to fix someone who won’t change, and start prioritizing your own well-being and happiness.

Beyond This Goodbye Poem To A Narcissist You Love

The normal human response is to try to fight for the things that matter. When we love something or someone we try to do whatever we can to fix the problem. The problem when you’re in love with a narcissist is that the problem is a person who doesn’t see a problem…or perhaps it’s a person who finds a problem with every single thing in their life except themselves.

We’ve believed their sob stories for so long that we want to believe that with enough love and support they’ll get better. It’s just because they have low self-esteem. It’s just because they’ve been through so much. It’s just because I or the world has let them down in some way.

No, it’s just because they’re a sick and selfish person without hope for change unless they realize that they’re the problem, which they’re very unlikely to do because we’ve already identified that they believe everything in the world is the problem except for themselves. Their entire identity is wrapped up in the lie that somehow they’re a victim. And when your entire identity is being a victim, you can excuse any abuse you commit.

You’re better than being a prop in a evil person’s play. You deserve more than table scraps and manipulation. You deserve more than a cycle of abuse that just goes round and round with you getting dizzier and crazier while they regain stability. Narcissists are so toxic that you will begin believing the worst lies because normal people try to be objective. Normal people look inward and ask, “What is my part in this?” Narcissists don’t do this. Because they are not normal. They are sick and dangerous. The only hope is getting as far away from them as possible and saying goodbye to them for good.

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